So here goes with my first post~
I can tell not everyone will have their first love at the first go. Neither did I after 8 failed relationships, and then I listen to people bawl their eyes out when it comes to losing the one they've had their hearts broken. People will be jealous about others who aren't able to find a date, and sour their relationships with other people around them for feeling ruined or not the one for anyone.
Funny thing is, I am getting a lot of people asking me about love advise, what do they do if the person they are going out with is the right person.. I have a lot to say, maybe some advise they can follow and use as a guide. I hope in a way this blog will be a good memory how my husband and I met, fell in love, the ups and down of our love life.
After 8 ruined amateurish relationships, I never thought I'd meet the husband of my life. I've met many Mr. Wrongs that brought my belief in men down. I don't believe in men because they have only been after the sex and their groin has more importance than the heart. Although one night stands is pretty much normal, and of course the appetite does come in...
Now that I am happily married with the man I love for over a year now after being in relationship with the same man over 7 years, who chose me albeit all my flaws, I am happy and confident. Being in love can make you feel you're invisible, you are more attractive albeit your body and face. However, from being in love you can learn many things you never knew about yourself. Or even learn to accept and change parts of yourself that you lack of.
But, the one question is, what makes a man or woman to race your heart and not your groin? Who is the sort of person who will make you dream of every night when you close your eyes? Is he the right one that you would like to spend the rest of your life with?
These are basically all the thoughts that ran through my mind when I had my first & following relationships till I met my husband. He has thought me many many things, our firsts, never the last, new discoveries together, learn from the pain, it is never anyone's fault when something happens.
However, one thing for sure that I have learnt from my happy marriage, never be afraid to love and be hurt from it. There will be days we will have our ups and downs, but never be afraid to go through with the pain. It will definitely make us grow stronger. Maybe there will be a day insecurities will flood in, mistakes, arguments, jealousy, followed by a series of unpredictable situations such as love coming from a different source when we are hungry for more. Working together through the pain, savouring every moment together, isn't that what happiness is all about?
Do share with me what are your thoughts! If you have a story to share, why not?
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